I always set out to try and conquer and succeed at all my crazy ideas and thoughts. I’m a hopeless creative with a million ideas and dreams floating around. Ben hears many a crazy ideas and thoughts pass my lips about what I think I’m going to do, but sometimes I feel for you all reading this that you do too.
I know this year through various blog posts I have mentioned new things I have wanted to bring to the blog and if you’ve noticed some of them haven’t happened. There’s good reason for it, but it doesn’t mean that things I have spoken of aren’t going to happen. It means I’ve been juggling things and it’s something I want to share with you all, because it’s such a massive part of our everyday lives here at home.
Two weeks before the end of the school year last year Cohen was diagnosed with Autism. It came as no surprise to me whatsoever as I have always had a knowing. Cohen has certain difference, pizzazz, quirk and charm, he has a beautiful way of looking at the world differently. He has knowing of things beyond his years and has an insatiable thirst for knowledge and life, he always seems to be trying to live out life full tilt 110% all the time from sun up to sun down. We joke that’s why he decided to be born two weeks early, he had to get this show on the road.
We’ve heard many a comment about Cohen from others (strangers and familiar people alike) as being high energy, full on, non-stop, smart, talkative or as being a handful. We’ve encountered both positive and negative comments about him from others and of course parenting choices and methods have been questioned and criticised. So when we hear those “he’s a handful” comments or response is we’re glad that he is our handful, because we love him in handfuls, bucketfuls and more.
The purpose of this post is not to go into a break down of his diagnosis and challenges we have, but this is more about an invitation to understanding us personally. I’ve been speaking personally more in recent times on the blog about kindness, understanding and opinion and a lot of it has had to do with social incidents concerning the way I dress, present, look and parent.
I’m proud of who I am and I’m proud of who my boy is, I couldn’t love him more if I tried, he is truly a most exquisite person. He embraces and accepts my difference as a mum and the way I dress and appear differently from others. He doesn’t really get it yet, but he will, but I make every damn effort to wear who I am as person on my sleeve and honor that, to be a role model to him for embracing who you are and accepting that.
So my friends that is life here, it’s full with living life, loving life and some days just getting through each day. Our weeks have changed so much since last year with plans, routines, appointments and therapies to support Cohen in having the best future outcome. Cohen is considered as being high functioning ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and his future is extremely bright, he has bucket loads of charm and smarts and dazzles us everyday with where he is heading in life. He has big dreams and goals, much like his mumma and I know he will be able to do anything he sets his mind to.
Sometimes things are tough, real though with an ASD child and sometimes it’s forever changing and I’m running at hundred miles an hour to be on top things and to be something to everyone in my family. But again without going into a list and breakdown to what makes up Cohen’s diagnosis, those who have an understanding of ASD will know it is many, many, many little and big things that can make life and the everyday challenging not just for the ASD child but for their parents and caregivers.
I hope from time to time that Cohen and I and can share more here on the blog about how we embrace our points of difference.We’re learning and growing from this every day and becoming better for it too.